Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of pursuing women, I suddenly realized that many guys around me are complaining: "Why are women nowadays so slow to warm up?" Honestly, as someone who has been through it, I can totally understand this sentiment. I remember when I was pursuing my girlfriend, she was also the typical slow-to-warm-up type, which made me doubt if I was doing something wrong.
Later, I discovered that slow-to-warm-up women aren't really uninterested in you; they just need more time to build trust. As my girlfriend later told me, "It's not that I didn't like you, I just needed to confirm that you were serious." This statement was an eye-opener for me.
With that in mind, I'd like to share a few "golden rules" I've summarized, hoping they will be helpful to those of you pursuing slow-to-warm-up women.
First, patience is truly important. I have a friend who pursued a woman for a full six months, during which the woman kept saying she was slow to warm up. My friend was almost ready to give up, but then suddenly one day, the woman asked him out for a meal. Now, they've been together for over two years. So, don't rush for results; give each other some time.
Second, learn to prove yourself through actions. Slow-to-warm-up women are most afraid of encountering men who are only enthusiastic for three minutes. When I was pursuing my girlfriend, I always remembered the little things she mentioned, like what kind of milk tea she liked or which vegetables she disliked. These details were really useful, allowing her to gradually feel my sincerity.
Third, maintain an appropriate sense of distance. This is really important! I've noticed that many guys come on too strong at the beginning, which scares slow-to-warm-up women away. I kept it to meeting her once a week and didn't chat too frequently, giving her enough space. This actually made her feel that I was reliable.
Speaking of which, I recall a particularly interesting comment from a netizen: "Slow-to-warm-up women are like boiling water; the more you rush, the less it boils. Wait patiently, and it will happen naturally." This is so true!
Finally, I want to say that pursuing slow-to-warm-up women indeed requires more patience and skill, but once successful, you'll find it's all worth it. Because slow-to-warm-up women often value relationships more and are more loyal. Like my girlfriend now, although it was tough to pursue her initially, our relationship is exceptionally good.
So, if you're pursuing a slow-to-warm-up woman, don't lose heart. Remember these three golden rules, and I believe you will surely find your own happiness!