Recently, while chatting with a few single friends, I discovered a common frustration: despite having decent qualities, why is it so hard to win over the girl they like? Honestly, I've been there too. I remember a period when I was rejected four times in one month, and the sense of defeat was truly soul-crushing. However, over time, I gradually figured out some strategies, and today I want to share my insights with you.
Firstly, I believe many guys make a mistake when pursuing girls by being too "exclusive." You might find this strange—isn't exclusivity a good thing? But the reality is, when you tell a girl that you only communicate with her, she might actually perceive you as lacking charm. As my friend once said, "What you can't have always stirs desire, while those who are favored feel secure." Girls also enjoy a sense of competition, much like how playing with building blocks alone feels dull, but becomes exciting when played with others.
Secondly, conversational skills are crucial. Today"s girls are very perceptive, and if you're still using outdated tactics, they'll see right through you. I recommend accumulating some interesting anecdotes, like "Since the first time you said goodnight to me, I decided to return a goodnight every day." This is both amusing and doesn't come off as too forced. However, it's important to use these anecdotes appropriately and not to force them into conversation.
Lastly, and most importantly, is maintaining a normal mindset. Many guys get so nervous on dates that they can"t speak, fearing they might say something wrong. There's really no need for this; treating the girl as an ordinary friend can actually help bridge the gap. As one netizen commented, "What is meant to be will be, and what isn't shouldn't be forced." Keeping this mindset allows the girl to see the real you.
Speaking of which, I recall an amusing comment: "Shared, hoping for success this time!" Pursuing a girl isn't as difficult as it seems; the key is to master the right methods. I hope my experiences can help you, and I wish everyone success in finding their match soon!
