Recently, while chatting with friends, the topic of first love came up, which suddenly reminded me of my own first romantic experience. Back then, I was so naive and inexperienced, and looking back now, it seems quite amusing. Today, I want to share with you the emotional journey of a girl during her first relationship and why feelings can shift from "having feelings" to "no feelings."
I remember how different I became during my first relationship. Previously outgoing and carefree, I suddenly turned shy and reserved, even speaking in a softer tone. Whenever my boyfriend got a little closer, I would blush and my heart would race, wishing I could disappear into the ground. My desire to share everything was overwhelming; I wanted to tell him about every flower I saw and every cloud in the sky. I would even buy things I thought suited him without hesitation, even if it meant tightening my own budget.
A comment from a netizen struck a chord with me: "May sincerity be met with sincerity, and may love be clear." Back then, I truly believed every word he said, and I was so understanding to the point of being almost absurd. Every time we argued, even if it was his fault, I would secretly cry, wondering if I had done something wrong. Reflecting on it now, I realize I was completely consumed by "love brain."
However, the beauty of first love often comes with naivety and insecurity. As another netizen put it, "Those who have experienced this fear that their sincerity might be misplaced." Indeed, during our first love, we tend to idealize our partner, sometimes even blindly. I was particularly obsessed with the sense of ceremony, fantasizing about romantic scenarios, and wanting the whole world to know about our love. But reality is often not so perfect, and the smallest things could make me feel like he didn't love me anymore.
Over time, that "feeling" gradually faded. As the article mentioned, feelings are a kind of "desire," a need for the other person. When this need is no longer strong, the emotions fade as well. A netizen commented, "No feelings mean there is distance, or perhaps it's because of the distance that there are no feelings." I find this statement quite insightful. When the impulse to be close to each other diminishes, the relationship reaches its end.
In fact, the transition from "having feelings" to "no feelings" is also a process of growth. During our first love, we often oversimplify love, thinking that sincerity alone can bring the same in return. But reality is usually more complicated than we imagine. As the article pointed out, attraction is specific and even unique; what we can't have often seems more appealing. This is why we sometimes can't forget those "untimely" people or events.
In conclusion, while first love is beautiful, it is just one chapter in our lives. From naivety to maturity, from "having feelings" to "no feelings," these are all necessary steps in our growth. What's important is that we learn to stay clear-headed in relationships and not lose ourselves in momentary impulses. As the netizen said, "May sincerity be met with sincerity, and may love be clear." I hope we all find someone who truly understands and cherishes us in our emotional journeys.
